There are many factors in a divorce that bring stress to the children in a crumbling marriage. According to Robert Hughes, children experience a great fear of change throughout the divorce because the family they once knew will now be different. The children now have to change their life styles to accommodate new circumstances such as the following: schedules which i

Although the divorce is hard for the couple, it could very well be even harder for the children. Where the adults understand what is going on, the child often has a rough idea of what is going on, but also has some misconceptions about everything and this may cause a lot of confusion. Not knowing what will happen next, and having to change your life to accommodate these changes can result in attachment issues. Feeling as though one can no longer trust the person they once trusted could cause fear, and confusion among the child. Hostility among the parents is a big issue that child are often faced with. Seeing them fight, not understanding why and having to choose sides can make the child feel guilty, and insecure. As you can see, divorce not only can affect the parents, but will also affect the children involved. The effects are long term and I am an example of this.

Fighting is probably one of the most prominent and most common problems a child must deal with when facing a divorce. Fighting among parents is often a reason for which a divorce is needed in the first place. This hostility among the parents makes the child feel guilty, angry, and alone (Hughes). As if the situation were not hard enough, there are times in which the child is made to take sides. This creates confusion for the children and places them in the middle of an adult struggle (Hughes). As one can imagine, this is a very uncomfortable and difficult position for the child. Deciding whom to choose, or whose side to take, can be an extremely stressful thing because if they go with one parent, they may feel as though they are betraying the other parent. This has been my personal experience, as my parents may play mind games with the child, and make them feel guilty when they perceive my actions as choosing the other parent. This in turn can make the child choose a parent out of guilt, even when the parent chosen out of guilt does not satisfy the needs of the Child.

Divorce is an ever growing problem in the United States, and according to statistical figures, the rate will soon climb to a 50 percent divorce rate, and the rate of divorces couples with children is around 28-32 percent (Debrod). This statistics are ever-growing, and researchers see no sign of it dropping any time soon. This means that about three out of ten children will be affected by this divorce epidemic sometime in their life. I was, and am one of those children.

I am completely comfortable with my mom because I have always been with her and I trust that she would never leave me or stop acting like a caring, loving parent. I can express to her my feelings and my experiences. I feel guarded with my dad however. Although the relationship has tremendously deteriorated since he left, I still worry that he will leave me, and no longer care about me. The truth

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