There are many forms of dysfunctioning families. One would be one that is too controlling. Now I am not talking about parents who set a curfew or do not let there child go to a certain party but the kind who over-function, never allowing their children to grow up and be on their own. Unlike the deficient parents, who hurt their children more by omission than by commission, controlling parents do not let there children assume responsibilities approbate for there age. Theses

A second form of dysfunction in a family is abuse. This comes in several forms; verbal, physical, or sexual. Verbal abuse comes in to forms. One form is direct abuse which can have lasting affects especially when it comes from the children parents or guardian. It can be aimed at the children’s basic value, capabilities, intelligence, or even his or her looks. The other form of abuse is the use of subtle put downs. It can be disguised as humor in jokes. Both types can be just as damaging. I often here the saying sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. I believe this statement to be false because words hurt a lot. Physical abuse’s definition varies from person to person. Some people believe slapping your kid is physical abuse, while some others spank those naughty little baggers, just like my parents do. I guess it just depends on your family beliefs. For instance I believe that spanking your kids is a must. There is a limit; of course. Spanking and grounding is a way of controlling my kids. I want them to feel my power over them, but I do not want them to fear me. The last thing I want in my life is for my kids to fear me, it would make me feel like I failed as a parent. However there is a certain something inside that wants to strike that child and when u do it feels good to slap that back talking kid. While some parents may justify or rationalize physical or verbal abuse, there is no justifying or rationalization for sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is the worst example of an adult abusing there power to just to pleasure them selves or for there own gratification. Sexual abuse between an adult and a child is where the contact must remain secret. For instance; kissing and hugging and other stuff that can be done in the open are not sexual abuse, but touching in approbate places, sticking things where they do not belong, or any other misbehaver like that is horrible. Hugging, kissing, giving each other pats on the back, things that are done in the open are signs of affection not abuse. Affection is needed in the family

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