Much of what happens in our own lives, our communities, and world events alike, depends on personal strengths and weaknesses in communicating, connecting, and interacting with others. People differ greatly here, but probably most adults never learn some skills that most children master before leaving elementary school. Lost opportunities, pointless fighting, poor leadership and negotiation, unhappy relationships, and even suicide can result.

As modern society becomes increasingly technological and impersonal, people place a greater value than ever on meaningful relationships in their everyday lives. Research shows that the most important contributor to personal happiness – outranking money, career and sex – is a close relationship with another person.

Communication is the largest single factor determining what kinds of relationships we have with others and what happens to us in the surrounding world. Communication is the foundation for all our interpersonal relationships.

Communication is something we all know is necessary to keep any relationship strong and loving, and although we are aware of the importance of communication, we still seem to be clueless about what exactly good communication really is. This does not mean you are clueless as a person, but it does mean that more attention is required on your part, so that you can become more open and invite the many forms of communication that exist, so that you will be able to understand yourself and your partner much better. There is nothing that keeps a relationship healthy, better than understanding and once you start becoming more familiar with your communicating styles, as well as your partners, you will be able to work better as a team in making the best of your relationship.

Picturing yourself as a teacher is non-threatening and greatly decreases anger and defensiveness. As the complainer approaches the problem with understanding, the atmosphere changes from one of adversity to openness and mutual respect. This lessens the likelihood of defensiveness and the individual being criticized is more willing to look at himself and change.

Willingness to learn communication skills is essential to establish that connection. With willingness, any relationship can prosper. However, another aspect is also crucial. Suppose a couple tend to frequently disagree, to the point where it threatens the relationship. Usually this means each wants the other to change in some way, and a power struggle ensues with both digging in their heels. Eventually the relationship either ends or simply dies with two people living together in a marital graveyard.

Is there any way to overcome such stalemates? One approach involves the principles of teaching. If you are unhappy with the behavior of a partner or friend, instead of attacking or complaining, which triggers defensiveness, consider the very likely possibility that your friend doesn't know the effects of his actions that he hasn't learned.

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