The first question one asks is "what is marriage? One definition of marriage is a union between two people that feel that they are right for each other, and decide to spend the rest of their lives together as one. But what one perceives of marriage to be at the get go is not always what they see after getting marriage. Some couples fear the worst, which is an unhealthy marriage that can lead to divorce. Others hope for the best, which is to live a long and healthy marriage. But I believe that everyone knows that marriage is harder than it seems but still do not believe it. Marriage has good attributes but also has it bad attributes that it brings with it. A marriage might start off good, but after a few years it might be considered to be going down the drain. Marriage, of course, has its ups and its downs. Problems arise in every marriage. But how one copes with them determines the marriage. The second question one asks is "what is a good marriage? Wallerstein and Blakeslee believe that a good marriage is one that follows the nine tasks provided by their book "The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts. Using this book as a reference, I interviewed a married couple that believes that they have a good marriage and I will assess if the marriage is a good one.
The names of the couple I interviewed were Thomas and Maria Fernandez. I asked them questions that were provided in class and asked them to answer truthfully. Here is a brief history of how they became a couple. They grew up in the same town in Mexico. So they were bound to bump into each other. He worked as a cab driver. She was a grocery clerk. One day, he went in the store she worked in to buy something to drink. She remembers what she felt when she first saw him. She said, "It was love at first sight. He said, "Her beauty caught my eye. He then went over to her and initiated a conversation. From this point on they began to date. This led to them getting marrie