In China funeral rites and burial customs are determined by the age of the deceased, cause of death, status in society, and marital status. According to the Chinese, an older person should not show respect to a younger one. If the deceased is a young bachelor his body cannot be brought home, it is left in a funeral parlor. His parents cannot offer prayers for their son: being unmarried he has no children to perform these rites either. If a baby or child dies, no funeral rites are performed, as respect cannot be shown to a younger person: the child is buried in silence. Every culture deals with death in a different way. The movie Ordinary People throws us into the house of a grieving American family.
Conrad Jarret is dealing with the loss of his brother, Buck. He is wandering through life trying to cope with life without his beloved brother. He does not feel connected to his parents. Buck was the most favored son. Conrad feels alone and at one point tried to kill himself. He is then sent to a hospital where he
His mother, Beth, seems like a very heartless person who only cares about the outside appearance of her family. She is upset that she already lost her son and now her only son resorts to seeing a psychologist because of a failed attempt at suicide. She thinks that the town will talk bad about her perfect family because of it. She is angry at Conrad because he did not save Buck. She resents Conrad’s healing. She will not go visit the psychologist because she is too worried that the town will find out.
The actors in this movie did a very good job. The characters are portrayed as I think the director wanted them. It is good to see a movie that helps the audience understand the ranges of emotions a person has when they are dealing with grief. This movie is different in the fact that Beth was the cold parent and the father was the warm one. In these days, society does not look down upon people that see a psychologist; today it is a normal part of life. I feel that Beth should have found a better way to deal with