I don't think there is just one thing that makes you love them. There has to be a series of things that happen before you have true love. Then he said the contesting question would be is there really love at first sight or just lust. My response was lust. You can't just love someone you don't know. Yes, there is attraction at first sight, and I believe you must have some form of attraction to have a healthy relationship. Somewhere during this conversation we tried to define love. I decided there isn't a definition because words are deciving why use something so hurtful and meaningless to define the truest thing there is. I don't think you can love two people at one time.