We are constantly searching for meaning and explanation in times of trial and tribulation. These complex times have often become the focus of numerous poets through the ages. William Shakespeareâ€™s â€œSonnet 130â€ and â€œSonnet 138,â€ and Ben Johnsonâ€™s â€œOn My First Sonâ€ are some of the many poems that reflect how as humans we must deal with emotionally complicated situations in our relationships with others. .
In a relationship, trust is very hard to earn and easily lost. Trust allows a relationship to grow because there is not the constant worry of what the other person is doing. However, when trust is broken, like the situation in Shakespeareâ€™s â€œSonnet 138,â€ one must decide what actions and words to believe or hold in contempt. Shakespeare introduces the dilemma the speaker faces when he writes: â€œWhen my love swears that she is made of truthâ€ (Shakespeare line 1 759). When the speakerâ€™s wife lies about her infidelity, he wants to believe her. The speaker states, â€œI do believe her, though I know she liesâ€ (Shakespeare line 2 759). Literary critic, Alice Moore, believes that the speaker is dealing with an internal struggle between wanting to believe her and knowing she is lying. She continues by saying, â€œHe cannot escape his knowledge of her dishonesty yet he chooses to â€˜believeâ€™ otherwiseâ€ (Moore 16). At first the speaker makes excuses for not believing his wife, â€œThat she might think me some untutored youthâ€ (Levin 28, Shakespeare Line 3 759). But in the end, the dilemma the speaker still faces is leaving his love or living with her deceit. It is only human nature to want to believe a loved one; however, the damage from deception may be impossible to overcome. .
The loss of a loved one is another emotionally challenging time we sometime face.