Teen magazine defines date rape as a sexual assault perpetuated by someone known to the victim: a friend, an employer, a date, or someone who the victim recently met. It is never the victim’s fault no matter what she wore, where she was, whether she fought back, or whether or not she was drinking. The perpetrator is 100% responsible for his action (73).

Many people think the greatest danger of rape comes from a stranger, a woman is much more likely to be raped by someone she knows. Women sometimes takes on the terrible burden of guilt, thinking that they asked to be raped if they had too much to drink, went to the guy’s room to listen to music or talk, or getting into his car. But the fact is that doing those things is never asking to be raped. Doing them does not means a woman is consenting to have sex with a man. Other women feel guilty because they think they didn’t fight back hard enough, but the fact is that rape is rape w

Victims of date rape experience many emotions: shame, guilt, fear, and self-doubt. They doubt their ability to judge people’s characters. They find it difficult to trust others. And, naturally, they face the frightening prospect of seeing their attacker again because they know him or her. A victim may also feel guilty and blame herself for causing the rape because she believes she led him on because she kissed or dressed too sexy or was drinking. However, none of these things means the rape was the victim’s fault. But feelings are not always logical. Me Ra Koh said that after the rape was committed and her boyfriend was found not guilty because of insufficient evidence she said, “Finally reached a breaking point and started contemplating suicide.” Rape victims are also thirteen times more likely to attempt suicide than non-victims (Winkler 55).

It is most often women who are raped, but boys can be raped, too. According to Kathleen Winkler, in the book Date Rape A Hot Issue, some experts estimate that about 10% of victims seeking help at rape crisis centers are male (20). In most cases other men rape men, but there are a few cases in which women have raped men. How can a woman rape a man? It is possible to stimulate a man into having erection even if he does not want one. Cases of female-male rape are often child abuse. The emotional effects, a young man may wonder if being raped makes him a homosexual. It does not.

There are ways to help prevent date rape. First, whenever you have a date, make sure someone knows whom you are going out with and where you are going. If a boy invites a woman to his house make sure that someone else will be there also like a parent

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