The answer lies in our way of thinking. We have been so used to the feudal culture which promotes dominance of men over women and the complete domestication of women that these ideas are consciously (albeit sometimes, subconsciously) inserted into our everyday way of life. Even our language shows remnants of this feudal way of thinking, just like the examples above. Yet many are saying that this way of thinking has already been broken. If that is true, then how de we account for the persistence of this subtle sexism?

Looking more closely, many women have succeeded in breaking the traditional bonds of domestication. But the greater majority still remains locked up in the house. This is especially true in rural areas. Their culture has groomed them to be housewives and they have been content to play that part because they have known of no other way.

It is time to turn things around. But Marra PL. Lanot and her poem Wife can only do as much as we can allow it. It can open our eyes to the harshness of reality. Still, the decision to change must come from within. It is time to realize this.

Woman and man. Wife and husband. Possible.

Yet, what is more disturbing about this subjugation of women from childhood to adulthood is that its persistence can be traced to their acceptance of the status quo. Their individual and collective indecisiveness to act on their own behalf and challenge the traditional consciousness is stronger than the external influence brought about by society as a whole. Their continued retreat into their private world of silence tolerates the sexism already rampant in our society. Their inaction to change the way of grooming the children (be it a boy or a girl), and seeming lack of confidence in the youth’s capabilities, further stifle the breaking of the feudal way of thinking that we have been so used to.

This subjugation of the female potential which starts as early as childhood is what limits the female to becoming a housewife. Up to her adult days, t

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