The Western society has a misconception of what an arranged marriage is, it is understood to be a practice of many third world countries to oppress their young, and in particular their young girls to forever live an unhappy life. It is incomprehensible for them to fathom the idea that love doesn’t necessarily have to come before marriage, but it can just as well come after and just as strong.
America was based on freedom and individuality; as a result it is not at all shocking to see that Arranged marriages are greatly misunderstood because they feel that it is against everything freedom stands for. Looking at the path Americans has chosen to live a happy married life is disappointing. Mostly everyone seems to be a victim of so called Cinderella syndrome. This is represented in movies and television sitcoms such as ‘Friends’, where they have displayed women at the age of 30 still waiting for “Mr. Right” and men divorced more then once, because they later realize what they thought was love was merely physical attraction. Arranged marriages attempt to save you the hassle of wasting so much time and effort just to find out a few years into the marriage that the attraction has faded because realities
Some might believe the reason for the percentage of divorce in the countries that use arranges marriages is so low because divorces are forbidden. This is not true, no one is forced to live their lives with a person they are not happy with, but divorce is always the last option. Before the divorce is granted, the couple has to get extensive marriage counseling from the priest, and every effort is made to save the marriage by making comprises. If children are involved, more vigorous efforts are made to keep the couple together not just by the priest but by the entire families. If both parties still feel that nothing can be salvaged, a divorced is regrettably granted. The reason this process is made so hard is so that one does not enter into, and get out of marriage as if is were a child’s game. Making divorce easy means that when one enters a marriage, it is always in there mind that if it does not work out then they can ALWAYS get divorced, thus making compromises between the couple a hassle, then a part of a married life. If a child is involved, then the child suffers the most. Studies after studies have shown negative effects on children of divorcés. Yet, in America, divorce is common.
There are many great privileges to having an arranged married, first
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