Question: Self-esteem is a person positive and negative evaluation of self. How can discrepancies between the real self, ideal self, and ought self affect self-esteem.
Self-esteem could be defined as how a person feels about his or herself. It determines if you are satisfied with certain aspects of your life, for example, your appearance, your personality, your abilities and your relationship with others. Usually people are very judgmental with themselves comparing themselves with others and making decisions about themselves based on the comparisons that they made. People constantly estimate or appraise themselves. Therefore it could be that self-esteem refers to the positive or negative evaluation of ourselves. (Kassim 1996).
Some people have a higher self-esteem that others do and this could influence the way they think about themselves. Self-esteem could be linked to a persons response to success, failure changes in fortune, social interactions and other personal experiences (Heatherson and Polomey 1991).
Brown (Braehm and Kissim 1996) referred to Brownâ€™s views which states that, how people approach their daily life is determined by their self-esteem. Those who feel good about themselves or have a high self-esteem are usually happy, healthy, successful, and productive. They can persist longer at difficult tasks, sleep better at night and have fewer ulcers. They are also more accepting of others and less likely to conform to peer pressures. On the other hand, people with low self-esteem are more anxious, depressed, pessimistic about the future, and are prone to failure. According to the self-discrepancy theory of E. Troy Higgins as cited by Brahm and Kassim (1996) a persons self-esteem is defined by the match between how they see themselves and how they want to see themselves. There are three types of self we can look at the real self, the ideal self and the ought self.
The â€˜real selfâ€™ is what a person actually is or what a person has to live with.