Making Friends Isn't Easy

Initiating the process of making a new friend is a very difficult process. This is where the concept of forced interaction comes into play. By forced interaction, I mean a situation in which another person and I are placed in an environment where we have no choice but to interact with each other such as at school in class and through family. It is impossible to be completel

Evaluation has always been very important to me. I constantly evaluate and re-evaluate myself, my friends, my schoolwork, and so forth, almost to the point of critism. I am ruthlessly self-critical and it is only natural that this same criticism would extend to those I consider my friends. Before I can become friends with someone, I have to determine whether or not I want to be friends with them and why. If one\'s own needs in a relationship are not met then it is impossible for them to fulfill others. The first step is the establishment of common ground. It is very unlikely that I will become even casual friends with someone who I have nothing in common with.

My personality could be described as arrogant, abrasive, and defensive. These attributes are usually not conducive to making friends. But I could also be described as intelligent, friendly, humorous, insightful and supportive and hopefully that is how my close friends would describe me. Although my process of making friends is a long and difficult one, the end result far outweighs any risks of rejection I may take.

The more we have in common the more likely we are to become friends. The first thing I look for is loyalty if I can’t trust a person to keep a secret then there is no need to form a friendship. The second thing I look for is intelligence. Part of my personality is the love of intelligence, which means doing things well in varying circumstances. A very important part of a friendship for me is intellectual stimulation. If it is missing, the friendship will invariably begin to fade. So loyalty and intelligence are two things I look for almost immediately in a new acquaintance. Sheree possesses both of these qualities and she possesses them in areas that we both find interesting. We share a love for the sciences. This contributed greatly to me finding her worthy to be my friend.

The main purpose of bonding is to get to know them as well as possible, and for them to get to know me as well as possible. To this end, we will frequently go out to movies, participate in after-school groups together, and basically spend

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