There have been many controversies about marriage and its traditions. Our world is changing and people are learning about different cultures and freedoms. Many cultures have arranged marriages but nowadays marriage is becoming more of the individualâ€™s choice in whom they marry. This change in tradition causes many conflicts within the family as well as the culture group and raises questions of tradition and independence. A great example of marriage and its meaning to different people is the story by Chinua Achebe, â€œMarriage is a Private Affair.â€ Every person has a different outlook on marriage. To some itâ€™s a choice, but to others itâ€™s a tradition. .
Nnaemeka grew up where tradition played a very important role in the way of life, because of this reason it was taken for granted that he would do as his people did in the past. His father expected him to follow the traditional rules of living. But when Nnaemeka got older he moved to a city and into a completely different culture. Leaving his home town he still knew what was expected of him but he disregarded those feelings. He knew that choosing a bride for him was the job of his father and yet he got engaged all on his own. What was even worse was that the girl wasnâ€™t even from the same culture as he was. She wasnâ€™t an Ibo. Nnaemeka knew what he was getting himself into, and yet he kept it from both his father and his fiancÃ©. He knew his father wouldnâ€™t understand what he felt towards Nene, and he also knew Nene wouldnâ€™t understand his fatherâ€™s traditional thinking. Nnaemeka should have explained that part of his life to Nene when they were beginning to get serious but perhaps he didnâ€™t think he wanted to marry her then. Some people donâ€™t have to worry about tradition, like Nene. She is living her own independent life without worries of satisfying someone else.