As a result of that, women will marry and have kids with someone that may not really be right for them. Most likely women will learn to be happy with who they are married to, but not really get to explore and find out if the man they have married is who they want to be with.
It is a must that every girl learn all the things a wife is obligated to do for her husband: "It was the way she had been taught to prepare herself to become a woman said Sophie. Mothering. Boiling. Loving. Baking. Nursing. Frying. Healing. Washing. Ironing. Scrubbing"" (151). Girls go through training as a child, and not just training to be a good person but to be a pleasant wife. Their training is a great way to prepare for when they are out on their own, but because they are expected to do all of those things for themselves, their husbands and children all the time can be a very overwhelming thing. These duties are not only just something mothers assume their daughters should do, but also their husbands, "The bedroom was messy. There were sheets piled on top of one another and pillows thrown randomly about, " Joseph said to Sophie. "You see I need you to put some order in my life,"" he said. "You need a maid,"" Sophie said (195). This training not only affects the women in Haiti but also the men. If men are taught to depend on a women for everything, then they will not be aware of anything leaving the woman to do all the work herself. This can cause her to feel exhausted, stressed, and like a maid, not a happy wife. Another thing that is considered to be a duty that wives should fulfill his sexual performance. Because he is her husband, she has to do what he wants even if she isn't comfortable, "We weren't connecting physically." Joseph said, "Did you find an aphrodisiac?"" Sophie replied, "I don't need an aphrodisiac. I need a little more understanding" (196). Women are supposed to understand that they are committed to do what men want without little to no understanding from their husbands.
In the book Breath, Eyes, and Memory by Edwidge Danticat, she describes how family values are very important to the Haitian culture and the life of a young woman named Sophie is completely shattered due to the trauma afflicted upon her by her mother's testing. ...