At times, it can be too overwhelming for the both of us, so we sit and talk things through to figure out what will make everyone happy rather than just thinking of our own needs and wants.
After reading chapter nine about intimacy I came to realize what stage my husband and I are in. The type of intimacy that my husband and I can relate to is the Masculine and Feminine Intimacy Style. In our relationship, my husband shows how he loves and care for me by doing what I want. He rather express his feelings towards me with his actions by doing things that makes me happy. Sometimes, I know he's annoyed and irritated by me, but he never tends to show or expresses it to me. On the other hand, I'm very emotional all the time, so I like to talk and express my feelings out to him. Not only would it make me feel a lot better but I'd lay all my frustration and sadness on the table so that he's aware of how I feel or felt. I feel that letting each other be more aware of our feelings will ease everything and help us understand what we should and should not do. When my husband gets upset with me he starts to do the silent treatment. Makes things a lot difficult for me because I won't understand what and why he's upset with me if he doesn't let me know what his feelings are at the moment. We end up just going straight to sleep without talking about how we feel. Sometimes, it feels as if it's much more easier not talking about our problems and just dusting it under a rug. But the truth is, it'll make the issue worst. Listening also plays a big role in our relationship. After, reading chapter seven about the "Types Of Ineffective Listening" I feel like our relationship can also relate to the "Insulated Listening." This type of listening refers to "Whenever a topic arises that they'd rather not deal with, those who use insulted listening simply fail to hear or acknowledge it" (Adler & Proctor, 2014, p.