All of her friends wanted nothing to do with her because they thought that she was having affairs with their husbands. Lily thought that by having rich and important men on her side, she would be better off, but the opposite happened. Her friends and family came to despise her, and she was soon left with no one and nothing. From the beginning of the book to the end, Lily's character changed socially from being at the top of the ladder and having all that she needed, to realizing that she was no more important than the person sitting next to her. Losing her friends and her money helped her to see that you are perceived in life by how you act towards those that help you.
Secondly, Lily thought that she was loved by all. She thought that she could do no wrong and that no harm would come her way. She wanted to do it her way and listen to no one. Mentally, at the beginning of the book, Lily was a very stable person. She had a strong head, good morals, and loving friends. Although her family life wasn't to great, her Aunt took great care of her and she was never left to rely on herself. Towards the end of the book, Lily started to realize that she couldn't rely on her Aunt and her friends for the rest of her life. People were starting to realize what she was about and they soon wanted nothing to do with her. Lily started to isolate herself from her friends, she didn't spend as much time with them, but rather more time at home. She thought that she was becoming a bore to them and didn't want them to get tired of her being around. Lily began to believe that she was never going to get married, to a nice, rich man and that she would be alone with her debts for the rest of her life. After she was asked to leave the cruise that she attended with the Dorset's, she kept even more to herself. Lily felt alone and betrayed, she thought that no one would give her a chance to be herself and that they just didn't want her around.