In about three to four boring pages, Tannen attempts to dissect the communication problems between couples. She explains that these differences can even be seen in children as "boys and girls tend to play with children of their own gender, and their sex-separate groups, have different organizational structures and interactive norms" (Tannen 7). Although there is an apparent communication discrepancy between same-sex discussions and opposite-sex discussions, this has nothing to do with date rape. Tannen is simply discussing a nonviolent communication problem between the sexes, and how intimate relationships are affected by it. Jacoby and Paglia are discussing a very violent and serious crime and disecting reasons for it's all too frequent occurrences. .
"Acquaintance rape, which is also referred to as "date rape" and "hidden rape" has been increasingly recognized as a real and relatively common problem in society." (Curtis 1) It is very sad to think that so many women were date raped before there was a name for it. .
"The publication of Koss" findings [on date rape] in the popular Ms. Magazine in 1985 informed millions of the scope and severity of the problem. By debunking the belief that unwanted sexual advances and intercourse were not rape if they occurred with an acquaintance or while on a date, Koss compelled women to reexamine their own experiences. Many women were thus able to reframe what had happened to them as acquaintance rape and became better able to legitimize their perceptions that they were indeed victims of a crime." (Curtis 1) .
Jacoby believes that date rape occurs because " a minority of men - an ugly minority, to be sure - can't take "no" for an answer." (Jacoby 7) While Paglia, on the other hand, feels that "there are sexual differences that are based in biology" and women should always be on the lookout for that attempted rapists.