He son is all she has left in the world to take care of her and her daughter. Amanda tries to hold Tom down by insults and guilt. "You know how Laura is A few days ago I came in and she was crying." She would say, "She has an idea that you"re not happy here."(Williams, 1110) Throwing their past and his responsibilities in his face is a way of her keeping present time preserved. For Amanda she stays in the past, hoping that no one in the family will ever leave with out her. Living in the past gives Amanda something to always hold over her family. .
Amanda always speaks about the past saying things like, "Among all my callers were some of the most prominent young planters of the Mississippi Delta - planters and sons of planters!"(Williams, 1103) The man she loves, that's why his picture still hangs, abandoned her. The fact that the picture of Mr. Wingfield hangs is an attempt to escape her life. By holding onto the past, and letting the portrait hang, she feels like she still has control. The reality she is beginning to suddenly loose control over, and needs to hold on to. When her husband was there things where a lot easier, she holds on because that is the life she deserves. She remembers the past distorted, therefore more appealing. "One Sunday afternoon in Blue Mountain - Your mother received - seventeen! - gentlemen callers! Why, sometime there weren't enough chairs to accommodate them all."(Williams, 1102) Most likely a severely distorted memory that she repeats often. .
Amanda places her own hopes and dreams onto her children. Wanting Laura to become independent from her. Needing Tom to be the father. These are her dreams, not the reality of her life. She knows her daughter is somewhat disabled and an introvert. She knows that just as well as, she knows that her son will one day leave her. Knowing these things keep her living in the past. A good escape back to her "good old days" where she would still like to be.