During this time, the Elima girl can choose from any Mbuti within her camp as well as others; along with choosing a male, flirtations and other games are played between the men and women. After a boy and the Elima girl have come to know each other sexually during the Elima and decide they want children, some tasks must be overcome. The Bamelima (girls of the Elima house) invite male Mbuti of their choice to sleep in the Elima house by whipping them. Once whipped they must fight their way into the Elima house which is protected by the Bamelima's mothers. Once a male youth enters the house by fighting off the mothers, they may sleep with the inviting women. Not only is the Elima a courting process, but it helps resolve any Akami made by the distinction of male and female. In doing this the entire camp plays a special form of "tug of war" that is more ritual than a game. It's simple; all men are on one side and the women are on the other. If it starts that the men are winning, a male runs to the women's side to help. If in fact the women start to win, a woman will go to the male side; this back and forth goes on until all the women are on the male side and vice versa. Each side is now equaled nicely and a very important lesson is learned; that they are all equal, and there should be no contest between sexes. .
Comparably the Catholic/Spanish culture have a ritualistic version of the Elima. The Quinceniera is the right of passage ceremony for Catholic Spanish females. In the 1700s, the remainder of Zunis in Puerto Rico compromised a ritual that celebrated the graduation from childhood to womanhood. Believing that woman were the center of the universe, this small group decided upon a celebration based on one of the clan leaders daughter. At the mere age of 15, the chief's daughter is ready to be married off and the chief decides to "show" her off by having a ceremony, and because of this the clan decided that this was the cross over age to womanhood.
Kung and other Bushman tribes, are viewed as a "primitive- people. ... Kung tribe is not comparable to the early people of their culture and that they are just the same as us minus our technology, which in no way makes them primitive' people. ... Kung tribe have grown with the rest of society. ... Kung tribes? ...