The second question is how is he with his goals and aspirations? .
This is a very important question to ask yourself. Guys have life goals that they want to pursue and address before settling into a relationship. (For example, getting a degree in college or making headway on a job path.) Unless your guy has put a dent in his ambitions, he won't be focused on you two. Even if he has said he is tackling his goals, you need to see that he is on track before investing in him emotionally. So size up how much progress he has made on his aspirations. It's definitely okay if he isn't making big bucks from some dream job, or even if he hasn't even gotten his college degree yet. But it's important that he is working towards these things, and is content with his current situation while he works on his solid strategy for reaching the rung he wants to be on. However, if he's spinning his wheels in a job position that he is unhappy with and isn't going after something better, he's not going to start fantasizing a future with you. If you and your guy are still in college like me and mine, don't think this doesn't apply to you. It definitely does. You have to start on your goals and dream somewhere, and college is the first place to look for these goal driven qualities in your guy.
"What is his romantic track record?" This is the third question you need to ask yourself. By college your guy should have a not so large, but considerable relationship record. If his track record has consisted of numerous flings and short-term relationships, this could be a red flag. He probably doesn't take relationships seriously and still just wants to have fun, which is definitely fine, but that's not what you were hoping for with this guy. However, if his track record consists of mostly long term relationships, this means that he wanted them to work and have a steady relationship. If this is the case, he may be worth the commitment risk.
