Individuals and Families in a Diverse Society .
There are many factors that tend to affect the change in relationships over time. .
This is very natural to have change over time because people change thus when people .
change, then the relation between the two people will ordinary change also. Now the .
question is what causes these changes and are they positive?.
In "What's your love story", the article by a PhD named Robert J. Sternberg, .
Robert States that, at some level, lay people recognize what many psychologists don't: .
that the love between two people follows a story. If we want to understand love, we have .
to understand the stories that dictate our beliefs and expectations of love. These stories, .
which we start to write as children, predict the patterns of our romantic experiences time .
and time again (Robert, 2000:1). Robert came up with the theory of love as a story .
because he like many was dissatisfied not only with other people's work on love, but also .
with his own. I had initially proposed a triangular theory of love, suggesting that it .
comprises three elements: intimacy, passion and commitment (Robert, 2000:1). Different .
loving relationships have different combinations of these elements. But ultimately .
complete love requires all three elements (Robert, 2000:1). To explain why relationships .
change over time, it is important to first find out what makes a person the kind of lover .
they are? And what attracts them to other lovers? Robert had to dig deeper to understand .
love's origins. And he found them in stories.
Roberts studies, which incorporates studies performed over the past decade with .
hundreds of couples, found that some stories seem to predict doom more than others: the .
business, collectibles, government, horror, mystery, police ("I believe it is necessary to .
watch your partner's every move" or "My partner often calls me several times a day to .
ask what I am doing"), recovery ("I often find myself helping people get their life back in .
