Shyness is a term that helps us to image oneâ€™s characteristic. This term is used for people who are compelled in constructing a social conversation with others or taking a role in the sociological environment. Among all of these explanations, some people think that shyness is a congenital characteristic. Opposite to these opinions, shyness is a not a genetic property of an individual. Every person has a hidden shyness in him. First of all, we should make the shynessâ€™ meaning to understand the whole subject clearly. Shyness can be examined among the children to understand its origin, different situations can be studied in order to understand its reasons, and the stages of conversation can be examined to understand the difference between the shy and self-confident people.
First of all, in order to comprehend the shyness as a term, we should examine its meaning more specifically. According to Philip Manning, George Ray (1993) and Martin S. Weinberg (1968), shyness is a temporary emotional reaction that is begun by a social interaction, an inclination to feel tense, and worried or lacking self-confidence (Manning & Ray, 1993; Weinberg, 1968).
As a second step, in order to understand that shyness is not a genetic characteristic of an individual, the childhood of a person should be examined. According to Kenneth H. Rubin and Jens B. Asendorpf (1993), shyness should not be accepted as a feminine behavior or characteristic because, shyness can be clearly seen in boys, too. But the important point between shyness of boys and girls is, the occurrence of the shyness in these two sexes. Because of that, boys and girls and their developmental stages should be examined separately. From Rubin and Asendorpfâ€™s point of view, two aspects of shyness should be studied in children. These two aspects are: fear of unfamiliar people and social withdrawal. In most of the cases, the fear of unfamiliar people and more developed version of this fear, fear of unfamiliar peers and adults, occur because of mother-child relations.