The former President of the United States William Clinton had a widely publicized and scrutinized extramarital affair with a White House intern, Monica Lewinsky. This scandal was a focal point for the nations unraveling moral fiber. Being a country founded by Christians the ideals of Christianity should permeate into the American marriage. Unfortunately this country has a very poor view of marriage (Clark p.13). In today’s world people are entering marriages hastily and for the wrong reasons, adultery is widely accepted and Divorce rates are high. One reason for this downfall of marriage may be the absence or lack of the spiritual aspect of marriage. One could believe that people would make better decisions if they had a better understanding of what God says about marriage according to the Holy Bible.

There are so many questions to be answered, how should a spouse be chosen, how should problems in a marriage be handled, is divorce a sin, what about when a spouse passes away? But lets just start from the beginning with dating. The first step is to find a suitable mate. Suitable is the word chosen to describe a partner in the dating process because that’s the type of

 Mutual Assistance. This applies to the cares of day to day life.

. They should work on reducing destructive patterns within themselves, together” (Coleman, p. 17). The Bible also encourages the individual to prepare themselves for marriage. As in the story of Ester During those twelve months she is prepared by softening her skin, fragrancing her body and hair, and humbling her mind. This story could be used as a guide for preparing to please and satisfy our spouse. “Everything we are is brought into a marriage, in order to prepare… we must be the best we can be before taking our vows”(Miller, p.13). Concerning the issue of premarital sex the bible says a woman should be a virgin to her spouse. Any sexual intimacy outside of a marriage union is considered fornication, which is a sin.

Now comes the time between courtship and the wedding ceremony, when the couple becomes engaged. There is no specified length of time, however the bible does give the example of Ester preparing for twelve months to be married. Many people prefer to live together before getting married. The bible shows no support of this practice. “Today’s society communicates falsehoods that cause people to believe they will find happiness in cohabitation”(Miller p.200). One study found that women who lived with a man out of wedlock were “more jealous, emotionally dependant, had fewer female friendships and less desire to advance within their jobs” (Miller, p.200) than married women did. When a couple becomes engaged they are in most cases anxious to go to a higher level with their chosen mate. The bible encourages this growth in the relationship. “An engaged couple should evaluate their relationship to discover whether they are spiritually and emotionally prepared for the challenge of marriage!

Studying the Bible about marriage reveals that marriage is a divine luxury that you can’t misuse without displeasing God. It teaches wisdom in choosing a spouse, and handling the duties of marriage. And it lets one know the truth that marriage is only a pleasure of this world. Therefore it should be cherished and respected by all.

At first dating for most people is for fun. A way of socializing getting to know people. As far as mere dating the bible persuades Christians not to date nonbelievers. Although many may not take dating seriously the people you surround yourself with

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