Also, after reading the chapter in Lifecycles, I began feeling the loneliness that my sister might be going through. I began wondering if my sister was Jewish and following the halakhah, how would she be viewed in society and by her peers? Would she be able to get the get because she kissed another man while she was married? Would she be shunned because she didn't follow the laws? These are the questions that I began to inquire about. The one question I really wondered was: Is my sister an agunah? Her husband didn't want the divorce and in Jewish law, she would not be considered for a get. Under the Jewish law's eyes my sister was considered an adulteress and should not be able to remarry. I began to wonder if I should feel any sympathy for my sister, but in my eyes she was happy. Should she be considered to start her life as a single woman? Or was my sister a moredet? In reference to Women and Jewish Divorce, was she the definition of rebelling against her household obligations? Was this the person I grew up with and is this the person she aspired to be? In the past Jewish life, I couldn't figure out what my sister was or was I denying the accusations because she was my sister? .
But in the Jewish life today, did my sister take her roles seriously as a wife? Did she follow the aspects of marriage and life? In my eyes she was a good mother and a wife. But I started to look in depth at my perception of her role. Jewish law, my sister was supposed to be a good wife first, but in the previous sentence I put how she was a good mother first. When I asked my sister this question, she proceeded to say that she was a good mother and then a good wife. In the Bible, Sarah and Ruth followed the same path as my sister. They would probably say they were good mothers and then good wives. How is divorce looked upon today? In a society where divorce is higher than people getting married, where does they Jewish value come into play? I feel that being more Americanized can lead to being a statistic.
