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I could not agree more with Sifford's main point. I have made irreparable comments to people before which I would have given anything to take back, but it was too late. I once told my mother, "A drugie would be a better mom than you, I"d rather sleep on the streets than under your roof," and I could see her heart ripping in two through her teary eyes. I immediately knew she would never forgive me for what I had said. Although she knew I didn't mean it, it was the fact that I had said it which filled her with the kind of pain which never fully leaves. Still to this day , I regret that I didn't think before I spoke. That hurtful comment wasn't worth three years of guilt. It was even more pointless because I don't even remember what had prompted that remark!.
Sifford's second main point is that a person can forgive someone for a painful remark, but not forget it. To support his argument he brings in the Husband and Wife example once again. That is, no how many times the husband tried to apologize the bloody dagger could never be taken from her heart. As even stronger support he gives the actual words from his father: " I can't forget it but I can forgive you-.
I concur completely with Sifford's point regarding forgiving and forgetting. A painful remark has often been compared to a scar to the soul. Like any other scar on any other thing, they are there forever and won't go fade completely no matter what you do,--the only cure is time. As a case point from my own life, a person I care about once called me "a good for nothing slut." that hurt me so deeply that I"ll never forget it, no matter how hard I try. I can still hear every crack in his voice, see every intricate movement of his mouth, as he said this. I forgave him, but I still can never forget his scarring words.
Sifford also presents the idea that people make cruel remarks because sometimes we think we"re beyond special and when we"re not treated in the special way we want, we say cruel remarks as a form of retaliation.
