Nel is a calm and well-behaved girl who has no choice but to conform to her mother's wishes. Sula on the other hand grows up in a "wooly house, where a pot of something was always cooking on the stove; where the mother, Hannah, never scolded or gave directions; where all sorts of people dropped in; where newspapers were stacked in the hallway, and dirty dishes left for hours at a time in the sink, and where a one legged grandmother named Eva handed you goobers from deep inside her pockets or read you a dream (Morrison 29)." Nel has an attraction to Sula's environment, which does not have "the oppressive neatness of her home (Morrison 29)." Likewise, Sula has an attraction to Nel's environment. When visiting Nel's house she would "sit on the red-velvet sofa for ten to twenty minutes at a time--still as dawn (Morrison 29)." Nel was raised in the image of her mother, whereas Sula has very few ties to her mother. The world of Sula must have seemed very odd and new to Nel, and likewise for Sula. They both had something that the other did not. This lack of something is at the core of the character of these girls. They come from opposite ends of a magnet. Nel is orderly; Sula is unsettled. The comfort each of them feels in the other's home is an indication of a common desire to be one. They each want to be immersed in the qualities of their counterpart. The one time in the book when they seem to have crossed each other's boundaries was after the accidental death of Chicken Little caused by Sula. Nel admits to herself that she had blamed his death entirely on Sula and set herself up as the "good" half of the relationship. That moment when Sula and Nel interchanged personalities demonstrates this merger. "Their friendship was so close, they themselves had difficulty distinguishing one's thoughts from the other's (Morrison 83)." To Nel, "Talking to Sula had always been a conversation with herself (Morrison 95).