What Is Love

Instead it is generally recognized that the requirements for achieving happiness in a career or in bearing a child may be harder than it seems.
             Everyone feels the need and the desire to be loved. The desire for companionship and love rises out of more intimate considerations that we know about. It is a reflection of or roots and motives that are psychological. Everyone wants someone to talk to, to be with, to feel understood by, to share experiences with, and we need emotional closeness and intimacy is a must with another human being. "The origin of our desire to love lies in our profound need to value, to find things in the world which we can care about, can feel excited and inspired by." (Nathaniel Branden) A healthy level of self-esteem is essential in whether we are consciously aware of this issue or not. If we suffer from deep insecurities, this need may become distorted by problems of envy, jealousy, or resentment by those who are more fulfilled than ourselves. But the need still exists. But the desire to love and the desire to be loved contain different elements for different people.
             Of the various factors that are important in a successful romantic love, none is more vital than self-esteem. We must first love ourselves then we can concentrate on loving someone else. Self-esteem has two interrelated aspects: a sense of personal efficacy and a sense of personal worth. No matter what our partner does to show that her or she cares we do not experience the devotion as convincing because we do not feel lovable to ourselves. Self -esteem exist along with continuum: it is not the case that an individual either has self-esteem or lacks it. It is a matter of the degree of self-esteem. .
             High self-esteem individuals tend to be attracted to others with high self-esteem. And on the other hand individuals with low self-esteem are attracted to people with low self-esteem. It is evident that self-conception plays a major role in romantic love.