She gives me that choice of sharing my problem with her, she lets me decide, it helps set the right boundaries. .
In every single relationship, the maintenance of the right balance is essential because it can easily get to the point when the closeness disturbs our own little comfort zone. According to Tannen, the distance between closeness and distance is important in every relationship but "[.] the struggle is especially intense between mothers and daughters. " When I used to be a teenage girl I had a great connection with my mom. I felt like I could talk to her about any of my problem, she would always be there for me, willing to listen and help. I relied on her and she never let me down. However, sometimes I felt like I don't want to share part of my personal life with my mom, I would rather talk about certain subjects with my classmates or friends outside the school, not because I didn't trust my mother enough or didn't feel comfortable around her. But because as a teenager I felt like there are some certain things that I wanted to talk about with people my age rather than my parent. And today, when I looked at it back, I feel like it was a perfect way to keep our relationship "healthy ". I have a wonderful relationship with my mom, we understand each other, we can laugh, talk and I'm certain too say that we found the right balance in our relationship. .
The importance of female appearance in our word is often a source of mother " daughter's mini fights. In her essay, the author presents the problem of criticizing each other appearance as a "Big Three " (Hair, weight, clothing). The author argues that mother who loves her daughter criticizes her look just because she cares how the society views her. "Mother might feel entitled, if not obligated, to say it, knowing that the women are judged by appearance. " Mothers usually do not mean to wound their daughters when they criticizes, as an author says they care about them and that is the reason they criticizes, however I agree with the statement that "Ironically,[.