The Causes of Fading Memory

Somehow each person has a different recollection of events from the same occurrence. Nonetheless, neither version is quite accurate as time distorts the real event. Further, the happy memories shared together do not matter as much as they used to; they may even seem painful to remember. .
             Equally, the strength of emotional experiences or memories depends on how strong the personal connections are with the person or persons with whom the memory is made. In "A General Theory of Love, " by authors Thomas Lewis, M.D., Fari Amini, M.D., and Richard Lannon, M.D., the authors agree that "[a]fter [the] first instant, our memory traces start shifting away from what they were, and we can never retrieve the pristine data once encoded. " This is one of the reasons why individuals who love each other want to be near each other on a constant basis since each new memory blurs out the last and most recent moment spent together. It is important to note that this newly formed memory has more significance than the last one for the simple reason that the past memory has been distorted by the effects of time; thus, it is of less importance to remember it. Although it may have seemed important at the time that it was taking place, it is not so, at least not anymore.
             Additionally, it can be said that memories change us, but it seems relevant to state that it is not the memories themselves that change us, but rather the way one perceives the memory itself. Some memories from years and years ago are so deeply and keenly embedded in our being, that seemingly unimportant incidents trigger such memories, like a familiar smell, sight, sound, or touch. Such is the experience of the narrator in D.H. Lawrence's poem, "Piano. " In this poem the narrator is listening to a woman sing. It is not long before this event triggers his childhood memories that make him longs for his childhood days. "So now it is vain for the singer to burst into clamour/With the great black piano appassionato.