The classic example is the saying that a mother, if her baby lies in danger of dying under a car, will find the strength to lift the car to save her baby. While this scenario might be a little extreme, I believe that it is easier to teach somebody to love rather than not. It is an inherent trait in all animals to show attachment to one of their tribe, flock, herd or school. the guardians and philosophers of Socrates are devoid of that attachment.
Confucius deals with pain and grief in a very different manner. The gentleman loves and respects his parents very much; as a matter of fact, in the opening section of The Analects he says that "When your father is alive, observe his will. When your father is dead observe his former actions. If, for three years you do not change from the ways of your father, you can be called a real son" (1:11). In addition, there is great emphasis throughout the book placed on the importance of a gentlemen being trustworthy and honest in their interactions with friends. The stress on the importance of friends and family creates a gentleman and sage with strong emotional ties to the ones around him. Thus he is willing to do almost anything for them, a passion that would force him to walk the extra mile, metaphorically and literally for those around him. Therefore in regards to shaping each of their reactions to emotional pain and loss the Confucian model of a sage emerges as more viable than the Socratic philosopher, .
Not only do sages and philosophers differ in their attitudes towards other people, they also differ in the respect of their views on questioning the world around them. The myth that Socrates would have the inhabitants of his prefect city believe works on the premise that the good person will not question its validity and just accept their place in the world. This way a blacksmith would not become unhappy with their role in society and attempt to become somebody with more power.