True love is different from falling in love. When you fall in love with someone, it stops your and the others growing, because when you're head over heels in love, you think you've reached the target. It's nok like this in real love; true love doesn't stop the others development. When you' re in a relationship based on true love, ain't love stopping the other persons "growing-; you're supporting and appreciating your own and your partners growing. You don't take each other for granted, but having an adjustment, agreement, based on taking equally care of the relation to whom you love.
Let's look at what love is about ;.
Love is to accept!.
Acceptance is labeling someone as okay, and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not. This is call unconditional love. When your love IS conditional, the moment they step outside your set of conditions, love "evaporates".
Love is to appreciate!.
Appreciation is one step beyond acceptance. Its when your focus is on what you like about another. We look at them and feel this sweeping appreciation for who they are, their joy, their insights, their humor, their companionship, etc. When someone says they are "in love" with another, they mean their appreciation is so enormous for this person that it consumes their every thought.
Love is wanting another to feel good!.
We want those we love to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and emotionally. Surprisingly many has got a lot of negative assossiations surrounding love, and describes love as painful, heartbreaking, dissapointing etc. .
But can love be painful?.
Who hasn't experienced the pain of love? Or is it the pain of rejection? The pain of self doubt? The pain of fear? It's important to distinguish between love and totally separate feelings.