In the movie A Bronx Tale, which is set in the 1960s, wizened mob boss Sonny instructs his protégé on how to test a woman's qualities: .
"When you go to your car together, unlock her door first to let her in," says Sonny. "When you walk around back, look through the rear window; If you see her leaning across to unlock your door for you.now that's a good woman." .
While the invention of power locks has rendered that "test" obsolete, me, and a couple of the boyz have developed our own various systems of check-fors when screening a woman. (Ladies, take note: I believe the tests I've listed here to be gender-neutral.) .
Question: But why would you "test" a potential partner? What are you, sick?.
They're not exactly "tests" you shadily maneuver them into. Most of these are simple character-gauging exercises, gained by observing your partner's (or candidate-to-be) behavior during various acts of their normal mundane life. .
As for "why," here's the reason. Being one-half of a couple in your youth is easy; since your domain includes school and "homework-, very little is demanded of you socially. But somewhere between 17 and 25, dating takes an evolutionary step, involving dorm rooms, parties, and hosting (of the non-internet variety). .
In settings like these, Suzy Cheerleader probably ain't gonna cut the mustard. You need a girl who can hold her own conversationally, exhibit some class, fend for herself, and generally not be dead weight. .
The Paying Test.
You're at dinner on the first date. The check comes, and you of course pick it up because you're a gentleman. Did she at least do "the reach" and offer to pay? The ones that don't even reach are bad news. .
While we're on the topic of first-date-dinners, what did she order? If it was the most expensive thing on the menu, a simple graphic analogy can help you envision the relationship: Picture her wearing a miner's cap, eagerly plunging a pickaxe into your back.