Frank J. Sulloway, writer of.
Born to Rebel, had this to say about birth order, "Few aspects of human behavior can.
claim such generalizability (as birth order) across class, nationality, gender, and time."" .
Birth order is the ultimate cause of behavior; it is destiny "if not entirely, then pretty.
nearly so (Epstein 51). First children tend to accomplish more than their siblings do.
because their parents expect more of them. All children in a family behave differently.
because of the way they are or were treated by their parents and others. The first child is.
very bossy to younger sibs, and has strong beliefs about what is right or wrong, and how.
his younger sibs should behave. He/she does not let the younger ones get away with.
something they could not do at their age. The second or middle child does not expect to.
get his or her own way much. They learn to achieve what they want through indirect.
means. The third or youngest child learns that the best method for him to get his way is.
by being nice. He frequently does what he wants and gets away with it because others do.
not notice (Ames and Haber 63-66). .
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Sibling rivalry has many causes that both parents and children can bring about. Parents.
create rivalry problems by comparison and favoritism. They have to see their kids as.
separate individuals, and not compare them. The parents have to make sure that.
comparisons do not lead to them buying one thing for a child's need, and then buying the.
same item for the other child even though he does not need it. There are certain types of.
comparison: positive and pressure. Positive comments can start problems between.
siblings (i. e. "I see from your homework that you are a math whiz, just like your sister!-.
Kent 80). "Children may feel resentful when parents push them into each other's turf,"".
reports Kathy Thorburg, Ph.D (quoted in Kent 80). When a parent compares two.
siblings, it puts pressure in sports, school, and any other aspects of life on the younger.