Love is an activity not a passive affect. In the most general way, the active character of love can be described by stating that love is primarily giving not receiving.
Fromm Stated that there are Five Types of Love .
Brotherly Love.
Motherly Love.
Erotic Love .
Self Love and,.
Love of God .
Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved rather than that of loving, of one's capacity to LOVE. .
a. men: to be successful, to be powerful and rich; .
b. women: to make oneself attractive; .
c. men and women: to develop pleasant manners, interesting conversation, to be helpful, modest, inoffensive. .
LOVE is the problem of an object, not the problem of talent.
Confusion between the initial experience of falling in LOVE and the permanent state of being in LOVE.
Being in Love.
Being in love is a kind of madness, involving unrealistic perceptions and ideals. A person in love sees the best in his or her loved one and is able to overlook the others shortcomings. Being in love thinks constantly about the loved one, is jealous, unrealistic, will tolerate anything, is sexually attracted by physical appearance, needs repeated reassurance he/she is loved in return. Typically lasts a few months or a few years. it doesnt change loving people. It creates a new view of each person for him or herself and for each other. The in love focus comes when the cozy feeling are used as a barometer to determine a level of commitment in a relationship. People in love most often become dillusioned because the intense cozy feelings fade away. Once the infatuation has worn off as it always does, people suddenly believe they must not have been meant for each other. Otherwise theyd still feel the same.
If two people who have been strangers as all of us are, suddenly let the wall between them break down and feel close, feel a moment of oneness it is the most exciting, miraculous, exhilarating experience in life. This type of love is by its nature not lasting.