You hear more and more every day about a mother or a father accidentally killing their child for a small misbehavior. This is becoming more and more of a problem. Parenting children is a very difficult task, one of the most challenging things anyone will ever encounter. The reason I want to talk to you today about the proper ways of disciplining children is because a lot of people do not realize the harm in spanking young children or even yelling at them. I will first discuss what we, as parents, can do to deal with a misbehaved child, and then why resulting in spanking a child is more harmful mentally to a toddler than taking the time to discipline in a more effective way.
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Quick question, how can you get your child to put on his coat when he refuses to do so in the middle of winter? A. Yell at them "Put your coat on NOW!!" B. Time out for not listening? C. Do not let him/her go outside? D. Let him go outside anyways?.
Learning natural lessons is ten times more effective than any other kind of method of disciplining:.
A) According to Phillip Hall and his associate's book, "Parenting a Defiant Child: A Sanity-saving Guide to Finally Stopping the Bad Behavior" he states "The best way for your child to learn how to make good decisions is to allow him/her to experience the natural consequences of making poor decisions." This is true for everyone, even in our age we mess up. At work we learn from it and we make sure it does not happen again. But as parents we also need to make sure that the consequence of the child's decision is controlled. Therefore no one gets hurt. What I mean is by going to the grocery store so they are not outside for a long period of time but park far enough away so they understand that "its cold, I wish I wore a coat." Learning natural lessons is ten times more effective than any other kind of method of disciplining.
B) Also just by having a routine in place every day is a great effective way you can get your defiant child to do as you ask because they already know what comes after lunch time its then nap time.
