As parents, they must set standards that are difficult for a child to reach. This makes them frustrated and the child unhappy." (Neal 3) A parent that sets an incapable goal for their child is setting them to fail and feel like they have disappointed them. First-borns tend to feel like they are never good enough and are held to unreachable standards. .
The pressure of setting a good example for their siblings can hold a lot of pressure for certain children. Although it is capable for one to be a good example and follow the rules for their siblings to follow, it could be a huge burden for others. Imagine doing something wrong and having your parents disappointed in you, telling you that you are a bad older brother or sister. At a young age that could mean a lot and some could possible take it to the extreme. Mel Menzies, recall her mother telling her just that. She says that because she tried so hard to be the "perfect kid", that personality and drive followed her into her adulthood. "I know some people know how to say no without saying no. I'm simply not one of them. Besides, I am in that unenviable position of being a first-born." (Menzies 1) .
The way parents choose to raise their children can directly affect their long-term personality traits and can even create and an image in their head of how their birth rank is supposed to act. Much like how the eldest child is supposed to be the responsible leader, the youngest child can get away with anything because they are the spoiled baby. These children really have no choice in who they are going to grow up to be, they are just victims of their parents decisions. Rachel Blackwell reports that, "a cycle can start where the youngest takes on the role of 'the baby' and the level of self-centered, irresponsible behavior can inadvertently develop." (Blackwell 1) Blackwell is reporting from her own personal experience with her children, comparing and contrasting her oldest verses her youngest child.
