Whether they actually realize it at the time or not. I let the love rather then the hate be my example that I got from them.
But along with good comes the bad. Throughout it all I tried to just let the good in and block out the bad. I was not going to become a bad, soured and negative person because of the situation in which I had no control over. I did not realize one of my personality traits until later in my life, the lack of trust I have toward other people. I found out that it was hard for me to allow people in. If I couldn't believe and trust in my parents, whom could I trust? I hold on to stability when I find it, and I hate anything even related to change. To this day I am still reluctant to trust anyone.
I gained self-confidence through the experience. I could have chosen to give up. It would have been extremely easy to place the blame on the troubles that I was going through. Instead it made me want to succeed even more. I did not want to use it as an .
excuse. I wanted to achieve everything that I had ever dreamed. I knew what type person I was before and I knew that I could be even more when it was all said and done. .
I gained maturity because of the good dose of reality. I wasn't living dream world, bad stuff does happen. I gained to intuition to not take stuff for granted. You never know .
how sturdy the basis is for which something is built. Every smile, every happy moment and even love should be treasured. This also helped make me a better person. It thought me how to look at things through different eyes than I had. All the little things began to mean more to me than it ever had.
I also believe that genetic programming has a little something to do with it. The genes that you receive from your mother and father do affect the way you approach life and its situation. It should become apparent to you from which parent that you gained these genes from. I came to find out that I approach life more like my dad.
