Being that I was once a single parent before I married it wasn't too difficult for me to convert back. Also being in the military, working twelve-hour shifts and not having relatives around makes the situation difficult. What keeps me going is that I know that my children depend on me and I have to be there for them. I find myself being the mother and father at times. I thought the divorce would have an effect on my daughter but she handles the situation better than I thought she would. In the beginning she did ask why her Dad doesn't live with us? I explained to her that we couldn't get along and it was best that Dad and I were apart. She still has a relationship with her father and things work out fine for them.
Although dating can be exciting and adventurous, I prefer to have a more serious relationship. I think that some people are afraid to approach a person fearing rejection; which is one of my problems. Always consider yourself a catch cause if you don't, no one else will. Not everyone you are interested in will be interested back. An issue that I"m having is finding the right mate. I feel incomplete; being that I've experience marriage I"m use to having that complete feeling and someone being there for me. There are certain qualities that I look for in a male, they have to include the following: must be employed, educated, has transportation, goals, independence, personality and spirituality. First of all my future mate must definitely be employed. Employment is important issue to me because I feel that a male should be able to support his family. Lack of employment can cause a lot of problems for both parties when one is unemployed and a lot of stress on the mate that is employed. Being employed will also eliminate a lot of financial problems and stress in the relationship or marriage. With both mates being employed a lot could get accomplished.
