Another problem that I have is that sororities base their selection of new members simply on a resume, recommendation letters, and interaction with each girl for about a total of five hours in the span of one week. To me, this hardly seems like enough time to get to know each girl personally and to obtain the true personality, morals, and characteristics of each one, which is how sororities claim they choose their members. In reality, the sororities base their selections solely on physical appearance, a few choice words written by adults who think favorably of the girls, and family tradition (if any exists). One anonymous sorority member states, "Many sorority sisters who interviewed me told me that unless I was incredibly unfriendly or hostile, I would be accepted since my mother was an alumna of the sorority." Many times girls are not accepted into sororities because they do not fit the "look" or specific personality that the sorority is looking for; and on most occasions, the girls that are rejected are the ones considered "unattractive" by societal standards or the ones with low self-esteem (or a combination of both). By denying these girls, it only creates in them more self-doubt and a greater feeling of self-worthlessness. As Mary of Delta Gamma puts it, "I did not want to rush for a sorority because I knew that since I don't have a bubbly personality or a six-inch waist, I probably wouldn't be accepted anyway." I am not trying to imply that all sororities implement this method in choosing all their members, but the fact that it happens often should show you the outlook and values that a sorority holds. .
After you are accepted, though you are already very similar in looks and persona with your sorority members, the sorority attempts to mold you even more into being exactly the same type of people. And by taking this approach, it instills in you the idea that those who are not similar to you and your "sisters" are not as significant.