Relationships In Recovery

             still continues to drink). About two years ago I decided to stop using, and about eight months ago I stopped drinking. Before my sobriety, my partner and me would go out "partying" almost daily, but when I got clean and sober the so-called "partying" stopped completely. Because I had stopped drinking and drugging the relationship got pretty boring, my partner on the other hand continued to drink, she had also stopped partying because of me. .
             After my sobriety what we had left was, an alcoholic and a co-dependent relationship, I .
             was the co-dependent and my partner was the alcoholic. Once I got cleaned up, I tried to .
             be my partner's savior, which usually happens according to the book. When I think about .
             it, I was always co-dependent. I came from an alcoholic family were everything was a .
             secret, you did not confide in anyone, you never talked about the drinking and the abuse that went on in the house. It's no wonder why I turned out to be co-dependent! My co-dependency did not end with my partner, it also trickled over on to my children. .
             According to the book, "Relationships In Recovery", that is normal. About one year after my recovery I finally realized that I was powerless, not only was I powerless over my control of people, I was also powerless over drugs and alcohol, that is when I started working a lot on my co-dependency. As the book states, we do not have control of others, we only have control of ourselves and our own actions.
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             I started to take inventory on my life and tried to figure out who I was, once I got clean. .
             (There is a chapter in the book on this subject, "Who Are You Now?") After doing some .
             work on myself by learning about my addiction and my recovery, I finally came to except myself for who I am. I realize that I am only human and humans do make mistakes, and I also try not to expect too much of myself by setting limits on everything I do. .
             When it comes down to my partner, there is not much I can do about her alcoholism, but to give her advise and support, in her attempt to getting sober.