Toula wants to change that and she wants to dip her toe into an all-American life: to be able to enjoy sliced bread sandwiches rather than moussaka and stuffed vineleaves; get a bit of an education in computers and perhaps even meet a real American guy. When Gus, Toula's father, finds out about Ian, he is devastated and said that she couldn't date him because he wasn't Greek. Later on, he got to accepting him into the family. Gus always proposes himself as "the head of the family" and thus the decision maker. However, Maria interestingly rephrases it as, "The man may be the head of the house, but the woman is the neck. And she can turn the head any way she wants". In my opinion, this tells us that the Greek men assume authority in the house and believe they are heads and the wives are subordinate to them but on the other hand, the woman feels that she can get anything out of the man tactfully to do whatever she wants without making him feel a loss of power. An example of this in action is when she encourages Toula to go to college and makes it seems as thought it was Gus's idea. Also, she does it again when it comes to Toula taking over her aunt Voula's travel agency. Thus, we see that the Greek women are portrayed as born to play a certain role in their lives but they can still make things happen they way they want it. On the other hand, in the Miller family, the husband and wife seem to be equal standing in marriage. We do not see them arguing about anything in particular and they seem to have more mutual decisions. We see this when Toula goes to their house for dinner, they both talk to her and ask her questions and complement each other in their conversation. They do not interrupt each other and relate to each other orderly. When Toula told them she was Greek, Mrs. Miller asked her husband, "Didn't you have a secretary from there before?". This shows us their unity and civil attitude towards each other.
