Not only are the lessons important, but the manner and attitude in which they are offered impacts learning. Learning is achieved through formal instruction, experience and modeling. Of these, modeling probably carries the subtlest yet most profound influence. An old adage declares, "Attitudes are caught, not taught." .
Communication skills either enhance or impede connections between people. The word, written or spoken, is our primary means of communicating with each other, developing and maintaining emotional connections that are the mainstay of any relationship. Sadly, we are sorely lacking in our abilities to communicate effectively. We learn from what we hear, and too often we hear criticism, judgment or negativity. We tend to not listen attentively, but are thinking of a reply so we don't really hear. How often people talk without connecting. .
We should learn how to dialogue with each other; how to truly listen, understand and empathize. With these skills, we would experience the reward of positive interpersonal connection with another. .
Willingness to learn communication skills is essential to establish that connection. With willingness, any relationship can prosper. However, another aspect is also crucial. Suppose a couple tend to frequently disagree, to the point where it threatens the relationship. Usually this means each wants the other to change in some way, and a power struggle ensues with both digging in their heels. Eventually the relationship either ends or simply dies with two people living together in a marital graveyard. .
Is there any way to overcome such stalemates? One approach involves the principles of teaching. If you are unhappy with the behavior of a partner or friend, instead of attacking or complaining, which triggers defensiveness, consider the very likely possibility that your friend doesn't know the effects of his actions that he hasn't learned. .
Most of us are in fact; at least partially oblivious to how we come across.
