I understood that Rae still was attracted to him, and that created the most terrifying images in my mind. Picturing them together again drove me crazy inside. This uncomfortable feeling was then brought to Ty's attention. I talked to him about how it makes me feel and how there was a lack of trust. Once I gained Tys trust, I though I was prepared for the relationship I was in. This was not the case for I didn't even consider having to trust his brother Chris. I spent about 2 years of friendship with Ty building up his trust. Time I have only spent with Ty which has left an absence of trust for Chris. Now that I am in the relationship, I am faced with the responsibility to have complete trust in Chris. This is essential because Ty has so much respect and trust for his brother. The fact that they are identical twins (in every way) makes is hard to only have trust in one. For example, there are very few conversations I can have solely with Ty. Just recently me and Ty got into an argument coming home from there baseball game. Ty was insistant to discuss the conflict on the way home. I would have, although Chris was in the car listening to every word I said. He didn't mind because it was just his brother and eventually his brother would hear the story anyways. Although, without having trust in Chris, I feel that my privacy has been invaded. In the beginning, I thought that I would not have anything to do with Chris. That idea was so far from the truth. Now, each day I try to learn more about Chris. I concentrate on building my trust with him. If I am going to be in Ty's life and Ty is going to be a part of Chris' life, it is essential that I have a trusting relationship with both Chris and Ty.
When conflicts emerge, both have to sacrifice their beliefs to find a middle ground. Countless relationships tend to focus on who was right and who was wrong. Fingers are being pointed in every direction.